Advisers

In 2 Chron 10, Rehoboam was made king after his father Solomon. Solomon was the wisest and richest man to live and had ruled all of Israel -- the northern and southern kingdoms -- for 40 years. When Rehoboam was made king, the northern kingdom asked him to make life a little easier on them. He asked for 3 days to consult with advisers.

His first consultation was with those that were advisers to his father. They told him to be kind and then the people will be his servants for a lifetime. Then, he went to his friends he grew up with that were now his advisers. They disagreed and told him to make the load heavier than his father. And, Rehoboam did exactly what he friends told him to do.

I have a couple of questions: Rehoboam had never ruled before and neither had his friends. Why did they think they knew what was best? What would have been the harm in being kind? Why wouldn't he listen to the wisdom of men that had supported his father and advised the wisest man on earth? Why didn't he inquire of God as well?

Here are my thoughts: Rehoboam wanted his answer and he was open to asking until he got it. He wanted to show that he was in control and it was his kingdom. He was going to make a name for himself (and he did as the northern kingdom split away and never was ruled by him). His pride contributed to his downfall. And, I think, his friends didn't have the courage to tell him what they really thought (or they just went along with it without questioning). But, when that happens, we need to look at ourselves and ask whether we have created an environment of trust and authenticity or an environment of fear and passive acceptance. The truth is that the first advisers were right. Heck, they had the facts and experience necessary to make the appropriate decision. In transition, what does it cost to leave trustworthy advisers around for guidance while you learn the ropes? Your ego.

I know that we can't always rely on past advisers and that at some point we must move on. But, that is not the issue here. The issue is making sure that we don't let ego get in the way and that we are creating open and honest relationships for open and honest dialogues.

One simple question, do you want to know that you've done all you can to avoid a Rehoboam situation? If so, ask God to foster truth telling relationships and be open.